At Bedford Health Sue works with children from 7 years of age, often for only one or two sessions. Although the number of sessions depends on the problems they’re suffering, how long that’s been happening and their personality type.
Both Applied Psychology and Hypnotherapy can be used and these are gentle treatments, designed to build the child’s self esteem and belief that they can overcome their problems. This is very helpful for children with problems and symptoms such as school anxiety, excessive worrying, phobias, exams, eating habits and a range of other issues that many people suffer as they grow up.
While kids may grow out of their difficulties, many parents feel it would be better to cut them short if possible.
For children under 7 years of age, Sue can work with a parent to teach you how to pass on techniques at home. Attention span under this age means that children are rarely able to concentrate for full sessions and that they learn better by parent led example at home and at their pace.
As children near adulthood it is more effective for them to go through therapy alone. This allows them the freedom to talk about issues that are embarrassing to them or which they feel their parents might not understand or approve of. We’ve all been a teenager and I’m sure you can remember that feeling. For these children and young adults the freedom to talk openly is often key to big changes. If you are at all concerned about this, please discuss it with Sue at your first phone call with her.
Many of Sue’s adult clients work with her using Skype, Facetime or WhatsApp when they are travelling or are unable to get into the clinic because they live too far away. Depending on the age of the child, it may be possible to do video conferencing with you and your child also. This is something you and Sue can discuss when you have a chat over the phone.
There are very few therapists specialising in working with children and young adults. This is something that Sue has been doing since 2005 and with outstanding results. Kids usually improve faster than adults. Perhaps that’s down to less time to embed the unwanted thoughts and behaviour or because of their huge imagination.
Whilst an adult may need 8/9 sessions children can often deal with anxiety and depression in 4/5 sessions. The number of sessions will depend upon the length of time they’ve had the anxiety/depression/phobia/behaviour, their personality and the support they receive at home.
Before she sees your child, it’s very important for Sue to gather information about the problem, the affect it has on them and your family and to find out their likes and dislikes as well as your opinions and concerns.
Particularly with younger children, she may spend 15 to 20 minutes on the phone with you finding out about them; this makes it easier for you and she to help them feel at ease early in the session.
A therapy session may last anything from 45 minutes to one and a half hours, depending on the age of the child and how much we are able to do during the session (younger children will often have the shortest appointments, due to limited attention spans).
Appointments will usually be booked as soon as is practical after school, to avoid them being over-tired.
It’s helpful if both parents come along to the screening session with children under the age of 16. If this isn’t possible, then the person who the child spends most time with. Having both parents there sends a powerful message that the session is important to everyone and gives better results as there are no misunderstandings about what the therapy session or programme will involve, to get in the way of progress later
Sue always explains what what she does and why, in language children can understand. She will get their permission, before therapy starts, keeping language positive during and after each session (and ask you to do the same). Your expectation of positive change is key to helping your child take onboard and use the techniques from the session
For hypnotherapy, the two most common techniques are The Blowaway Technique and The Fast Phobia and Trauma Cure, and the choice of therapy will be made only when Sue has met and assessed your child, as treatment must suit their needs.
Many children may benefit from Applied Psychology (The Relaxed Living Progamme), which deals with longer term and more deep seated issues. Common issues include worry, panic, over-thinking, separation anxiety, school anxiety, inability to make and keep friends, phobias, sleep, picky eating, aggression and anger, defiance, depression and avoidance of activities or events
This single session helps children resolve their anxiety and the symptoms this causes. By using gentle hypnosis, the problems and issues begin to resolve themselves, so that the child will grow up to live the best life they are able to.
Often this single session will be enough to move your child on, although with some issues and depending on the child, additional sessions may be necessary.
During the therapy part of the session, your child is encouraged to take a deep breath and ‘blow away’ any negative emotions, thoughts or ‘bottled up’ feelings. This helps them to let go of worry or stress, which their mind has trapped. Powerful, (always positive) hypnotic suggestions for change are added, so they can begin to move away from unhelpful thoughts and experiences .
Your child doesn’t have to explain or dwell on traumas or issues during the therapy part of the session and Sue works hard to keep everything as relaxed as possible. Attention is on the child rather than on the adults in the room; although adults will be asked to join in with the session, so the child feels less ‘on the spot’ (and it may help to reduce some of your anxiety too!)
This is another technique to help children overcome fears and upsets, caused by known events, for example, those afraid of dogs may recall being bitten by a dog, or feel sick every time they visit a certain place, because they were sick the last time they went.
Often all that’s needed is a single session. In fact it’s so effective many parents are amazed at how their child just seems to laugh off something that used to really bother them before the end of the session even.
For long-term, deep seated problems and where children have a tendency to overthink in several areas of their life, the Relaxed Living Programme can really change their thoughts and behaviour.
It lasts from 5 to 10 weeks, according to the issues being dealt with but will cover many areas of anxiety and unwanted behaviour. This is a training course rather than therapy, teaching your child how to think better, feel better and to build their own resources to deal with current and future problems.
Is your child an “over-thinker”, do they brood, worry, have unwanted thoughts that seem huge to them and stop them being happy and fulfilling their true potential? Most children like this are very bright and have just never learnt to think positively. Often it can seem that they’re looking for worries and those worries will increase and the subjects are likely to multiply over time.
The parent who spends most time with the child will be asked to come to each session, to help reinforce the techniques your child will be taught and to explain to the other parent what was learnt each week.
Your child will be taught to improve their own self esteem, instead of waiting for others to bolster them. To reduce any social anxiety (a fear of being judged) and to build internal resources to deal with whatever life throws at them, now and in the future.
Sessions are informal and include fun techniques and (incredibly bad) drawing on Sue’s flipchart. These drawings help to cement techniques visually. There are also physical props used to illustrate points. This range of learning techniques is designed to fit your child’s own learning style. Most important, we’re seeking to help your child feel comfortable, supported and positive about change and the benefits they will see.
While Sue can’t guarantee improvement for any client, she does have particularly high success rates with children and young adults. Their openness to change can be amazing and harnessing their imagination to expect positive outcomes is at the heart of all the therapies Sue offers.
Changes are often begun before they’ve left the clinic but for some there will be a few days before this process becomes obvious to family and friends.
So if your child has an emotional or behavioural problem that doesn’t seem to be going away and you’d like to find out more about what Sue can do to help, just contact her today to talk about the therapies she can offer to reduce their anxieties and problems and make life easier for the whole family.
To book a free screening session, or for a brief telephone chat, please call, text or email Sue
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Reporter Hayley O’Keeffe writes about how hypnosis saved her from a lifetime of catching the bus.
I failed my driving test six times, there I said it.
Aged 28 this was not a good thing for me, learning to drive was something I felt I should have done a lot, lot sooner, but as circumstances dictated it just never quite happened. I’ve had plenty of lessons mind you, and whenever I had any spare money would spend it on intensive courses to try and get myself that illusive pink card. But to no avail, when it came down to actually doing the test I was just so nervous. I’ve had tests where the examiner has grabbed the steering wheel, where I’ve travelled in second gear down Bedford’s London Road, and where I’ve (almost) gone the wrong way around a roundabout. If I’ve ever cut you up I’m very sorry, I was just nervous! I’ve had some great tuition too, from the ever patient Gerard Doyle of Drive Johnsons, he has had to put up with a lot I can tell you. Part of it must be to do with my age, the 17-year-olds just hop in and get going, but I think it was predominantly my mindset. I’ve always been the passenger in the car, and have never really been interested in motoring, super cars and especially not Top Gear! Being behind the wheel seemed like an alien world and was more than a little scary. So that’s where Sue Wilson came in.
Sue works at Bedford Health in St Cuthbert’s Street and is a hypnotherapy practitioner, what's more she offers a special pre-driving test session to help candidates get over their nerves and achieve focus. I booked my seventh driving test, and after much deliberation a session with Sue, would this help me pass my test once and for all? The fateful day arrived and I headed to Bedford Health for the hour long session.
Part of me thought that this would be just the ticket, another hoped that I wouldn’t come out of the treatment room quacking like a duck! But hypnotherapy is nothing like the myths. In a consultation Sue asked me just how anxious I felt about the test, what I was most concerned about and what I wanted to feel like when I was doing the test. And after the hour, which was very relaxing indeed, I came out feeling focused and ready for the test, in a way I have never felt before. And do you know what? Later that afternoon, when the examiner turned to me and said you’ve passed I was so excited, because hypnotherapy, and a little perseverance really does work! To find out more visit www.bedfordhealth.co.uk
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I came to Sue with a best man speech to perform and a debilitating fear of public speaking, I left with a new found confidence and outlook on life. Sue was welcoming and reassuring from the start, making it enjoyable for me to attend sessions. She not only taught me the strategies needed to overcome my fear, but lessons for all aspects of my life as well. I couldn’t recommend Sue highly enough.
Sue has really helped my 9 year old son Archie, he was struggling to fall asleep at night on his own and never slept through the night without waking up. We only saw her for three sessions and it that time Archie is so much better, he falls asleep on his own now and sleeps through the night a lot more than he used to. Thanks so much Sue we are so much more relaxed as a family and sleep time has become a pleasure rather than a chore. 4/11/19
I certainly feel the sessions have been of great benefit and I am feeling more able to cope with the IBS. I will certainly recommend you to many others
Hi Sue. You asked me to get in touch after a month. Well it's four weeks today and I haven't smoked at all. It's been a hard month as I've not been sleeping well, up at ridiculous times and a couple of personal things that have been very trying. However, I really didn't want a cigarette at all. It did cross my mind a few early morning's, but the thought didn't linger. Had I have tried to do this myself I would definitely have given in. I have really surprised myself and my family. THANK YOU SO MUCH. You should be hearing from my hairdresser XXX at some point, probably after the festive season. My daughter XXX may well be in touch at some point, I am keeping out of it and letting her decide for herself. Thanks again, regards Pat 13/11/19
Hi Sue, I'm 12st 3 and still dropping! I have now lost 3 stone which is kind of unbelievable! Thank you so much
Just to let you know I went to my dental appointment this morning and had to have 4 injections in my mouth, at first I was slightly worried because I didn’t have time to imagine my ‘safe place’, but by the time he put the next needle in I was completely fine and calm. It definitely was not as traumatic and painful as I used to believe it was. I’m just emailing to say how grateful and appreciative I am, it really has helped me so much!
Hi Sue I got hypnotised from you over two years ago for stop smoking and have not smoked since.
I've lost 23.5lb since starting! Now weight 8st 9lb
Thank you - 5 months on Hi Sue! Long time no speak- I hope you are well! Just wanted to say thank you for everything you’ve done- I’m at my happiest I’ve been in years / comfortable in myself and I’m so grateful for everything! Work is going great now, taking on my responsibilities- and I’m loving it. But yes just thought I’d send you a message, everyone has said what a change they’ve seen in me and I think of you every time :-) so thank you!
Hi sue thank you again for my treatment it’s been nearly two weeks now. I am settling into being a non smoker really well. I wonder why I ever smoked in the first place it just seems so pointless. I have been filling my time up easily planning new ideas for my business. I feel like I spend more quality time with my son as I’m not constantly thinking about when I can sneak out for a fag! I have been to the gym much more as I know my drive there and back won’t involve a fag stop! I feel fitter, healthier and better already. Every now and then I think about smoking but I use the tools you gave me and the thought disappears within seconds. Thank you again for helping me become a non smoker.
Thanks Sue ... The Relaxed Childbirth Programme helped me stay calm and enjoy the birth, which I really did, and I have been very happy and have coped very well upon returning home. Everyone commented on how well I looked and I was out and about the next day doing my shopping!
I'm very impressed ... I haven't given in! I feel better in myself and for the baby ... I would recommend it to other mothers who smoke.
I’ve lost 10lbs in the last 4 weeks and I’ve had no problems, I’ve listened to the CD once a day. The Relaxed Eating Programme is very easy to follow; I’ve had no cravings, and I feel great. I now naturally make the right food choices that are good for me without giving it any thought, and I manage my food portions, listening to my body and know when I have had enough to eat and do not feel I have to finish what is on the plate, just because its there
Sue, thank you very much for your help. I feel so much calmer and happier in myself. Therapy really helped with my issues and restored my self esteem. I feel so much more positive about the future and feel much stronger in myself. 29/10/19
I have now lost 1.5 stone, which I am truly delighted with! Thank you for all your help